Gift them a memory to cherish for a lifetime | GiftXOXO
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou.
Weddings are crazy affairs not just for the bride and groom and their respective families but also for many of their friends. One is faced with the mind boggling; supremely important, life-or-death question of picking the fabled "perfect wedding gift". There are just too many criteria to meet, quite like choosing one’s own soul mate.
The perfect wedding gift needs to be something which is unique but also memorable; it should be useful so that it just doesn’t it sit on the mantelpiece but also needs to be beautiful; it needs to be thoughtful, personalized and at the same time it should be liked by the couple getting married; it needs to be exciting as well as something a group of friends can afford.
Come to think of it nothing at least nothing materialistic seems to fit the bill. Watches, perfumes, expensive chinaware and even jewelry don’t seem to pass the above test. So what does one really gift? What would you prefer- a glitzy bag or a quality time with your partner?
Imagine giving a gift that will be remembered long after the wrapping paper has been thrown away and talked about for years. Not a tie that ends up in the back of the closet or a sweater they never wear because they don't like it - even though they said they did. A gift that truly surprises, delights and excites the recipient. What if the newlyweds, fed up with countless gift cards and ho-hum tangible gift items, wanted to celebrate and seizing the moment in a memorable way? In amongst the toasters and the picture frames, there was a gift choice of a hot-air balloon ride with champagne for two or racing around in a Ferrari for the weekend. They would be blown away for sure.
That is the power of giving experiences. While science has done its bit of proving that we as humans value experiences more than anything tangible; the primary reason they work better is because they touch us in numerous ways and become a part of us. At the very essence of such gifts is that they not only create a strong bond but also depict the originality of ideas.
The reason experiences can be better as gifts are because individuals adapt to the tangible gifts. Initially, we like them because they’re shiny and brand new. But as individuals and also as creatures of habit, we adjust. As the novelty of the gift goes away, so does the exhilaration. Sure enough, the gift gets replaced with something shinier and brand spankingly newer. No matter which wristwatch one buys, even if it is entirely satisfactory, it can still be compared to one in a store display — encouraging counterfactual thoughts about what it would be like with their positions reversed. After returning from vacation, in contrast, it is not so easy to compare going scuba diving in Lakshwadeep or a romantic candle lit dinner inside a swimming pool.
After having an experience, however, the event remains deep within our memories. Generally, these experiences involve bonding with others and having an astounding time with these people. But it doesn’t stop there. The feelings continue even following the experience. When remembering the event and retelling to friends and family, it allow us to simultaneously relive the happy moments. Also, the more the tale is retold, the stronger the memories become. With impressive experiences, there is always something thrilled to talk about with your friend or family member. "Hey, remember the time when we…." And the best of all? When we least expect to see it, objects, words or friends around us will bring about these happy memories and immediately light up our moods.
Whether it's watching the sun rise from a hot air balloon, feeling the adrenaline rush of driving a F1 race car, pampering themselves at a luxurious spa or celebrating their first anniversary dining on a helipad, your recipient will be forever grateful for the lifelong memories you helped them create.
Giving the gift of an experience is like the MasterCard campaign: PRICELESS