Real Bride Feature: myShaadi gets a bite of Oindrila's Love Story
Ours is one of the stories that Facebook might be given credit for. My husband Arjun Narayanan was a college senior and he had completed his post graduation in the University of Stirling, UK. He had gone home for holidays and was planning to apply for work visa from India. I was then in the UK and having a merry time with my friends clueless about who he was then. It seems he had plans of visiting Stirling once his visa got approved and he wanted to meet all his juniors in the next batch. He added everybody who was pursuing their MBA in Stirling and the slightly flirtatious nature that he has, he added more girls than guys:p
I was friends with one of those people whom he added. I was curious to know how she had accepted his invitation but still curious to find out more about him. He was good looking and I had a hunch that he might add me too. Just as I had thought, he added me too but to his surprise I was not in MBA but I thought lets have a chat with him. I was single then and this guy seemed interesting especially with similar tastes in food, clothing and music. We kept talking everyday although I was still apprehensive about getting romantically inclined towards a Tamilian.
On one fine day, I mentioned to him that I was feeling bored and told him that I wish I had a boyfriend to give me company. He took that as a hint and told me not to worry and that he will become my boyfriend. I understood that he was not too serious and I was too. However, we continued to talk. He reached UK and I had left for my holidays to India. We could not meet then and it took us 4 months to finally meet in Manchester where he was working then. Both of us thought we should go on a date first to know each other better and see if we are made for each other or not. We did like each other and we wanted to take the next plunge towards marriage. He told his mom immediately and got her approval. My father visited me in UK and Arjun was there with us offering to be the guide although my dad knew him to be a friend.
We traveled together to India and my dad was still clueless about our relationship. However, when I told my dad, he did not create a fuss and offered to meet his mom. They met, liked each other very much and then it culminated in our marriage. So, it is love cum arranged marriage. I like Arjun's looks, intelligence, dress sense, his command over English while he liked my extroverted attitude, cheerfulness, enthusiasm, friendliness and loving nature.
Our Wedding, our Style..
Ours was a mixed marriage. Me being a Bengali and he being a Tamil brahmin. We wanted to create an atmosphere where there will be a culmination of both our cultures on one stage. We liked this eclectic concoction. We thought of having both the styles of marriage in Siliguri as it would be less time consuming and lesser travel. He wanted the engagement to be an intimate affair and the marriage be grand.| Likewise, we did have a grand marriage with over a thousand people attending it. He wanted the reception to be an intimate affair in Chennai. It happened that Taj Club House and the crowd was fewer than 250 people with only close ones being invited.
Wedding Clothes & Makeup!!
I was based in Kolkata and my husband in Chennai. We knew Chennai is very famous for its silk sarees. We wanted to create a fusion in the clothes that we wear too. I wore traditional a silk saree worn in the Bengali style. It was bought at a popular wedding saree shop in the heart of Gariyahaat, Kolkata. Arjun had bought a madisar which is an important saree in Tamil brahmin weddings. I did not know how to wear it although I did wear it finally. I did all my wedding shopping myself although I entrusted the job of getting the right sarees to my dad. He is very good with colours and he has got very good choice. The make up was taken care of by Kaushik Danda, a very popular choice for celebrities and film stars alike. For my reception, I opted for soft silk which we bought in Moksha's and for the make up I opted for Naturals Lounge. The brief was to keep it minimal although my skin should be glowing and radiant. They did a very good job.
Arjun did not want to be wearing some designer stuff. He felt that he was wearing Indian wear especially traditional clothing during the marriage that he felt that he should go for western wear for the reception. He did just that. He was very keen that he wore a Zara suit for the reception with tie from Tierack, pocket square from Satya Paul, shirt from Wills Lifestyle and shoes from Clarks. I trusted him that he will look dapper in whatever that he wears and I was sure that he knows dressing very well. He wore Bengali wear for the first time and we brought somebody specifically from Jalpaiguri to help him wear it. For the tamil marriage, he wore the Iyer way of wearing the dhoti and he was ably assisted by his uncle.
Arjun had attended one of his close friends in marriage in Chennai. He saw this photographer who was taking pictures from different angles and also stopped by to take a few pictures of him. He felt that this photographer had tremendous energy with oodles of enthusiasm and passion for photography. He did take lots of candid pictures and many were extremely good. So, when it came to my marriage, he asked his friend if he could give his contact details. We spoke to him and also visited his website DropD Studios. Many of the pictures that he clicked were mind blowing. My husband was sure that he wanted him to be our official wedding photographer. My husband did some background research and found that the photographer Nishal Lama's parents live in Siliguri. So he suggested to him that he take our pictures as this is an opportunity to visit his parents too. We were extremely happy and satisfied about his work. He had done a fabulous job.
Photography by: Nishal Lama, DropDStudios
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