Real Bride Jhanvi's heartwarming wedding experience...
Jhanvi and Jay: We both are from Mumbai, live in the same locality, have known each other since 2003, started dating in 2007 and finally got married in 2012. We were seeing each other for almost 6 years until we got married. My husband asked me out on 1st Jan 2007, a date that he would always remember ;)
We did have our shares of ups and downs as he went to US for his masters for 2 years, we had a long distance relationship, which by far was the best time for both of us. That’s when we actually realized that we were meant to be together forever.
How we met each other: We met each other after school, went to the same college, are from the same group but we started liking each other much later. We were good friends but there wasn’t anything more to it at that point. But as they say, “a boy and girl can never be just good friends;)” which did hold true in our case. We shared our feelings for each other and dated for a few years, until today, we stand married.
Jay: I always wanted to marry someone who is homely at the same time ambitious, who has her head on her shoulders :P Jhanvi was everything , infact much more than that :)
We planned everything by ourselves (families) as Jay’s sister got married just 3 years back. She had all the experience! Again, we had a lot of support from both the families, especially mine as the bride always has tons n tons to do, much more than the groom:P
My mom was my pillar throughout, we make a great working couple, from everything minute to the biggest arrangements were done by both of us. Of course there was my dad and brothers always there, but all the running around, going to designers, trousseau clothes, fittings/ alterations, deciding on the menu etc. phew!
We didn’t want a very grand wedding, wanted to keep it simple and classy. We selected venues in both sides of town, our sangeet was at Hyatt Regency and wedding/reception was at a ground in Marine Lines. We did have a Pre-wedding Cocktail as well, Oscars was the theme for it.
Sangeet was Dandiya, wedding was the traditional style and Reception we wanted more of a Nawabi style (my husband wore a bandh gala and I wore a very different outfit for the reception)
I always wanted to buy outfits for my functions which I would be able to utilize later as well and didn't want them to be just decorating my wardrobe – so I was always practical about it form the very beginning. I didn't ever like over the top embroideries/bling and stuff. I preferred something classy and I always connected with the clothes I bought.
My sangeet and reception outfits were from Sabyasachi, but both were different in their own way. Sabya is my favourite designer and I always dreamt of wearing his clothes! What I bought for my sangeet was with tradional colours and my reception outfit was Vintage with a different styling altogether, the minute I saw the outfits, I knew I was wearing them.
My Wedding outfit was by Hardik Mehta, a young designer friend at Worli by the brand name 'Smitasha'. He did an amazing job, we hunted for the longest time for the right colour, fabric as I wanted the traditional red and green as a part of my wedding outfit. He did a brilliant job. My mehendi outfit was also by him, along with my trousseau.
My jewellery was by our family jeweler in Lokhandwala, he did the most marvelous job cos I never liked getting jewellery done but after seeing his work, I would love to get it done over and over again ;)
Selection of the Invitation Card: We wanted to keep it simple and elegant & selected a colour theme of red, white, gold and green – all traditional wedding colours
I feel all the effort that you put in for months just gets over in a day! And when it’s over, it just feels like a dream. All functions from something as small as our 'Lagan lakhvanu' to my reception day, I feel all were different moments that I will always cherish. But if I have to pick favourite moments, first one is when you leave your house on the day of the wedding, you just feel it’s like your last time, also when the pandit says that you are now married to each other – feels like a mix of emotions, I feel the reception was actually the time we both were completely relaxed and joking with each other on stage. Now I am 4 months into my wedding, I still feel and often ask myself, are you really married?
Just be yourself, listen to your heart when it comes to selecting your clothes/jewellery/makeup, you always know what is best for you and what you will look the best in!
Delegate work to others as the wedding date comes closer, don’t live in this bubble that you can manage doing everything and be a part of all discussions/decisions , because at the end of the day you get drained out!
It’s your day and you are THE one who will get all the attention irrespective :P so just let it be the way it is, things always fall in place.
Also remember, you cannot always please everyone/all guests. However perfect your functions/outfits/food, people always need something to talk about, so just don’t get bogged down.
Most importantly, finish off all your shopping weeks before your functions begin, don’t run around at the end, because there are always last minute things that will crop up anytime. Plan your shopping/spas/facials and most importantly food(the nutritonist that I am ;)) Carry meals with you when you are going out shopping and avoid any kind of crash or detox diets before the wedding, it’s all crap. Eat well from the very beginning and do some kind of activity like a sport or workout at the gym/yoga and you will be in good shape.
Drink a lot of water and sleep on time (NO late nights) - the best way to keep you skin glowing.
Enjoy each moment with your partner and a v imp word of advice : don’t involve him in petty issues!
Just relax, sit back, enjoy and live your dream!
Photography by: Vrutika Doshi
About Vrutika Doshi
Inspired by art all around, drawing and painting was a god’s gift. There was something which made me look forward for more and more creativeness. That’s when I was introduced to designing and photography. Photography is never ending journey. Every new shoot brings in new challenges and growth. Clicking anything is very easy, but clicking something meaningful changes its whole meaning. It’s the value and feeling that photography adds to a picture.